In today’s society, us men have it easy. We don’t have to go out in the wilderness, hunt, risk our lives, and fight other tribes. Life is becoming much easier (thanks to modern technology), but this ease of life, sets men down a path of laziness, especially with the endless entertainment options available to us. A life of sitting on the couch, watching TV, movies, or playing video games seems to be the default for many my age. I am not against those things, but it is clear when some people’s lives are consumed by them, when they are not living up to their potential, when they have lost their masculine energy, their self esteem and are wasting their life.
Even if you are not wasting your life away, the masculinity that was prevalent among men in 1920’s to 1950’s America, is not as prevalent today. On my journey to becoming more masculine these are some hobbies of mine, that have helped me increase my masculinity.
Solo travel, one of my favorite hobbies, is great for building self esteem and self reliance. Solo travel might seem more fun than it actually is, until you try it yourself. It takes some getting used to. When you are in a foreign country by yourself, you don’t know anyone, and can’t speak the language, you are forced to rely on yourself. You must get out of your comfort zone and create your reality. When you are at home, you decide with your friends, you make plans, you push each other.
When you travel solo, you have none of that. You are literally on your own (unless you decide to stay at a hostel). You must figure out how to order food, tip, where to go, how to stay safe, how to take public transportation etc. When hitting up bars/clubs at night, you might be harassed by the bouncers or cock blocked by the local dudes. You will be forced to stand your ground, and nurture your masculinity. Solo travel forces you to get out of your head, to rely on yourself to make plans, create your reality, have fun, and enjoy your time. If you travel solo and end up being miserable, you have no one to blame but yourself.
Hiking in the Woods
Hiking is another one of those activities that forces you out of your head, out of your comfort zone. You must be present and figure out how you will get from point A to point B, and you might get lost along the way. Going out in the woods all alone or with friends, will force you to overcome your fear and become self reliant. You will trust yourself more, that no matter what happens you will be ok. You also gain memories and hence things to talk about that make you more interesting to women.
Exercise is the best investment for your health. It also helps with anxiety, depression, and low testosterone. Pushing yourself to the limit strengthens not only your physical body but also your mind, your self discipline. It feels great, to go the gym after a long day, and let out all the energy constructively, all that built up energy from the day’s bullshit. When you’re at the point where you feel the burn, you almost want to stop, you need to push yourself. This will build your self discipline: another muscle that you can strengthen over time.
Cold approach is the most masculine thing you can do. Approaching a girl you find attractive, putting yourself in a position to get rejected, is not only a valuable skill, but also very masculine. Not many guys in today’s society are able to approach women. I blame porn and the lack of male energy. Most guys I see out at clubs are drinking, and socializing with their buddies, they just look at girls, they can’t approach. Cold approach forces you to be a man: to lead the interaction, figure out her logistics and pull her.
Don’t Make Women the Center of Your Life
It is female energy whose sole purpose is to reproduce, hence women always talk about relationships, men, and love. You should never make your life revolve around a girl. If you are in a relationship, you should still be focusing on yourself, doing what you enjoy, and not structuring your life around a woman. She will secretly resent you if you do. Masculine energy is penetrating energy, it is about finding purpose, building things, and constructing, it’s purpose is not love. So never give up your freedom or your life purpose for a girl.