The Importance of Breaking Down Your Nights

If you are going out constantly, and you don’t feel like you’re making progress. You need to start breaking down your nights, self assessing your skills, without any attachment to your ego.

When pick-up started in Hollywood, Mystery and his students believed that everything had a solution, and everything had to be field tested. They would stay up all night trying to figure out what they did wrong and how they can improve. They believed that every situation could be solved using the right technique. Today, this is not seen as a valid strategy, but the dedication they put into their skills is something that you can learn from. If you don’t have someone who’s better than you, someone you can learn from or a teacher to point out your sticking points. You need to constantly self asses your skills; maybe not every night, but make it a habit to do so at least weekly. If you have a wing, use him, let him watch you in the field and help you self assess.

I also self assess my night, when I’m bored at the club with no sets around, or if for some reason, my night isn’t going well- constant rejections, or constantly ejecting from sets. I like to take my time, for a minute or two. I turn the attention on what I’m feeling, the anxiety, the thoughts in my head, and I try to focus on the present moment. Sometimes it helps to do a quick 30 second assessment, with my wing, or by myself, to try to understand what I’m doing wrong. Do this if you’re getting blown out constantly. Take a quick break, breath deeply, and relax, everyone has been there. If you know what you’re doing wrong, just be aware of it.

Don’t spend too much time breaking down your problems in the middle of the night, the last thing you want to do is get logical, and get in your head. You need to be approaching. Leave the longer introspection, once you’re home, and you have some free time to think about what you did, and introspect on the overall vibe you were giving off and the reactions you were getting.

You can publish field reports, there are some Facebook groups/subreddits you can post your field reports to. Use these to describe how you felt, what sets stood out to you, why you think you lost the sets etc. You can also write in a personal diary (this is something i like to do), and make sure you don’t attach your ego to game. Just write down what you did well, not so well, and how you can improve. Take educated guesses, and test them out. Each night, pick a sticking point or a technique you want to work on i.e calibration, a specific part of verbal game, escalation etc.

If you’re advanced, try to have more fun, do something crazy and epic, and stay out all night. If you’re advanced, you need to look at your limiting beliefs and try to break out of your routines. You need to have the frame that anything is possible in game, even at the end of the night. In New York, I approach girl’s on the street while they’re walking home.

The last tip I can give you, is to view every social interaction as an opportunity to learn more about human psychology. Soak up all the lessons you can, observe people, their interactions, try to guess how they feel, their body language, and their sub-communication.

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