In this post, I want to talk about something I noticed in myself recently: the correlation between a high sex drive, and the energy to hustle in life. I also found this discussed in some books that I recently read. This makes me believe that this correlation is also prominent in other men.
My Energy Levels
I have an extremely high sex drive. My body makes this clear to me. I noticed that my sex drive and my energy levels are correlated. Last summer, I was going out 4 or 5 nights a week in NYC (after my 9-5 job) just to hit up clubs/bars and talk to women. I really didn’t find it exhausting, I actually enjoyed the process, as I had (and still have) so much energy. It was a constructive use of my energy: to improve my social skills.
Granted, I’m in my 20’s and I hear the 20’s are when men have their most life energy. I think it’s more than life energy, it’s also sexual energy. I have literally stayed up until 1 or 2 am, 4 nights a week, while having my 9-5 job, and hitting the gym regularly. I believe that the high sex drive is related to the motivation to hustle in life- at the gym, work, reading self help, and learning game.
Sexual Energy As a Life Force
“The emotion of sex is an “irresistible force,” against which there can be no such opposition as an “immovable body.” When driven by this emotion, men become gifted with a super power for action. Understand this truth, and you will catch the significance of the statement that sex transmutation will lift one to the status of a genius.” – Napoleon Hill
In Napoleon Hill’s book, Think and Grow Rich, he talks about how he noticed that many entrepreneurs also had extremely high sex drives. He believed that they channeled that energy to grow their business. They would abstain from sex, and channel that energy to take massive action, and hustle.
“When you feel sexual lust or desire for any woman, breathe deeply and allow the feeling of desire to magnify. And allow it to magnify more. Don’t let the energy become lodged in your head or genitals, but circulate it throughout your body. Using your breath as the instrument of circulation, bathe every cell in the stimulated energy. Inhale it into your heart, and then feel outward from your heart, feeling the world as if it were your lover. With an exhale, move into the world and penetrate it, skillfully and spontaneously, opening it into love.” -David Deida
This is a quote from David Deida’s book The Way of The Superior Man. I’ve been experimenting with this technique lately: when I see a hot girl, or when I am talking to a woman with a strong female energy, I take that energy in, and let it circulate in my body. It’s difficult to explain the process, but you just get present, focus on the female energy emanating from her body and you feel it in your body. This can be used as motivation to approach, or if it’s not possible (you’re at work or something), just use it to energize your body. It really works!
Use Your Sexual Energy to Improve Your Life
If you have high sex drives, use that energy constructively.
Use your sex drive to improve your social skills– approach women! Go out to bars and clubs and go approach women.
Reduce masturbation- You don’t have to stop completely. Masturbating is fun, I won’t get into the negative effects of porn- I’ll leave that for a later post. But reduce masturbation- weekly, bi-weekly, or whatever works for you. Save that sexual energy so you have motivation to hustle- at the gym, to self improve etc.
Stay away from cues that get you horny for no reason- porn, half naked girls on Instagram, or whatever gives you a cue to masturbate. Keep that sexual energy circulating in your body, and don’t channel it to your dick for no reason.
Use your sexual energy to hustle- You will not settle for sitting at home, or watching Netflix every day, if you have a strong sex drive. Don’t masturbate, and go do something: read, learn a new skill, go out and talk to women, whatever brings you joy and requires strong will power.
Your Semen Provides Your Energy, Masturbate Wisely
Your semen is your sexual energy. The less you masturbate, the more will power and energy you have to do difficult things: to go to the gym, to eat healthy, to read, to learn a new skill, to go out and talk to women.
Be careful, if you’re having too much sex, or masturbating too much, and you’re just wasting your life doing something unproductive (it’s fine to relax every once in a while, but not fine to live a lazy life, where you’re not self improving).