The Two Hook Points in Any Interaction

Vibing is the key to getting a girl attracted to you. This mainly comes down to two points in the interaction that you need to reach: the ‘social hook point’ and the ‘sexual hook point’. The Social Hook Point At first, you need to reach the ‘social hook point’. This means that the girl understands that you’re not a creep, you’re a normal guy who’s not afraid to approach. This can be reached with any girl. Remember at this point, she doesn’t think you’re interested in her. She’s just having a nice conversation with you. Tips to reach the social […]

My Different Paradigms While Learning Game

One of the questions I always found myself asking was along the lines of ‘Why am I doing this’, ‘What’s the point of getting laid’. I certainly wasn’t in it for the validation, and I knew sex was not a big deal, sometimes masturbating even feels better than sex. I’ve been with girls long before I knew about game. Yes, yes, I got into this to hook up with more girls, to get more validation, to prove to myself that I can be attractive. But the more I started going out, traveling, and seeing that I was able to attract […]

Dealing With Her Friends

Guess What? Her friends are going to decide if you’re cool, if you’re allowed to go with her/pull her, and if she can give you her number. Remember, every girl’s entire social status rests on her friends. She will not upset them, and if they drag her away, she will happily comply (unless you are Leonardo DiCaprio). This is why it’s so much easier to pick-up a girl when her friends are not around, and this is why you need to isolate her. Her SD (slut defense) will be up, if her friends are around. Before I get into this […]

Useful Books on Game Techniques

If you like to read, here are some additional books that will teach you useful game techniques. These are not really necessary for you to become successful, but they will give you some tools that you may find useful in certain situations. Remember you’re not going to learn from any book. You need to be constantly going out, and trying different techniques. I find inner game books much more important than technique. Once you have the basics, the rest you will learn by going out. You can also probably watch tons of infield videos on youtube and learn whatever technique […]

How to Number Close

The best way to really increase your odds at success is to number close every set. You also need to follow up with a second date. I found this more difficult in NY, but much much easier in Europe. I did not try to number close in other cities in the U.S, as I have been going for the pull lately. But nevertheless, number closing is a solid tactic, if you’re new to cold approach. You should experiment with it and see if it works in your city. If you’re gaming in NY, you need to know that girls are […]

Must Read Books if You’re Starting off in Game

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Let’s face it, if you are starting off in game, you’re probably not a natural with women. You probably found the pick up community because you may have some self-esteem issues, anxiety, or some inner game problems (we all did to some extent). I would strongly recommend reading the three books below, make it part of your pick up journey. You can read them while you are going out. No More Mr. Nice Guy – Dr Robert Glover The ‘nice guy’ syndrome is pretty common in our society. If you are a nice guy, the book will be a bit¬†disconcerting […]

On Indicators of Interest – IOIs

Indicators of Interest- or IOIs, as the pick up community calls them, are very subtle hints girls will give you. These usually mean that the girl’s emotions are aroused, and that she wants more of your masculine energy. They also indicate that the girl is interested or attracted to you. Girls will rarely verbalize attraction (it happens but not often). Their emotions come out in terms of subtle IOIs, you need to look at their body language and the sub-communications. Here are some examples The universal make out sign: she looks at you, then she looks at your lips (unless […]

On Rejection

If you’re starting off with game, you need to look forward to rejections. They need to be part of your reality. For the first 6 months, you should be getting tons and tons of rejections, maybe one or two make outs, maybe even a lucky pull. But for the most part, you should be experimenting with different techniques, getting rejected and learning from your mistakes. Rejection is the only way to learn. Fearing rejection is an evolutionary tool. When we lived in tribes, getting rejected from the tribe meant death, as the tribe was our only means of survival. Nowadays, […]

On Shit Tests

Shit tests can be very subtle. They can range from the obvious ‘is that your pickup line’¬†, to the subtle frame tests that girls throw at you to make sure you’re congruent. High value girls get approached A LOT (more than you can imagine). They subconsciously turn to their female energy to guide them on assessing a guy’s congruency. As female energy is all about testing men’s boundaries (see David Deida’s The Way of The Superior Man); it is obvious that women will test your masculinity. Shit tests are a form of IOI. A girl whose not interested in you, […]

On Physical Escalation

Physical escalation is extremely important when it comes to getting laid. If you can open and hook consistently, that means you can get girls interested to want to have a conversation with you. The next most important step, is to make it ‘man to woman’, i.e show that you are interested in the girl sexually.¬† Remember, escalation leads to sex. If you are not physically escalating, you will not get laid- with most girls. Next, you need to calibrate, every time you escalate on a girl, ask yourself how is she feeling, and calibrate accordingly. You must pull away if […]